Sex 101 with Dr. Berman
DR. LAURA BERMAN BREAKS DOWN THE RULES OF LOVE
Are you living your best life in the bedroom? If the passion has fizzled in your relationship, sex therapist Dr. Laura Berman has developed a step-by-step plan to help you jump-start your relationship in the new year.Dr. Berman says every couple deserves a happy, healthy and fulfilling sex life. “Having that passion and that sexual connection in your relationship is what separates you from being roommates and co-parents,” she says. “It’s really what gives you that intimacy, that connection, that life force, that life energy in your relationship.”
Part of achieving that, Dr. Berman says, is understanding the different needs men and women have. “Women really want the romance, the connection, the emotional intimacy. Men get there through being sexual. Women are inspired to be sexual because they have that closeness,” she says. “So the sex creates a yin and yang.”
-THE IMPORTANCE OF TELLING THE TRUTH
FAKING IT— most women have probably done it at least once. But Dr. Berman says that if you want a more satisfying sex life, you have to start telling your own sexual truths now. “It’s an epidemic. Over 70 percent of women have faked orgasm if not on a regular basis, once in a while,” she says. Dr. Berman even has a term for it—the “mercy fake.”
“He’s trying so hard,” she says. “And she just knows that it’s not going to end and she knows she’s not going to get there.” Still, women don’t fake orgasms because they want to be deceptive, Dr. Berman says. They do it because they feel a sense of inferiority. “She’s trying to give him what he wants, and she feels badly that she can’t and so she fakes it,” Dr. Berman says. If you’ve been faking it awhile, Dr. Berman says it’s a hard subject to come clean about. It can also affect your relationship beyond the bedroom. “Every withhold that you keep from your partner is like a brick in a big brick wall between you and he,” she says. “Once it comes out, the guy feels totally duped and he thinks, ‘Oh my gosh, if she can be this good of an actress, what else is she lying about?”
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August 11th, 2009 at 6:19 am
Sex after 50? How kinky???
August 16th, 2009 at 2:56 pm
Is it possible to have a relationship without sex??? Hell NO!!!!!
August 29th, 2009 at 9:37 pm
KC Freak, I second that