You can pick up the best one if you put genuine effort in it. Make a detailed and impeccable dating profile in which you describe your personal qualities, your professional qualities, financial and social background, your interests and liking, your hob…

thats why i am single and happy. Very good article though!

From Smith, quote:

1) “Being a bitch” was never going to get me the love I desired from black men. (Note: Being a bitch as in being mean, argumentative, hard to get along with, bitter, etc.)

2) Our “credentials” don’t attract men! Just because WE feel that we are successful, independent, professional and educated doesn’t mean that’s we’re attractive to men, or even datable for that matter. I have learned that it is our EXTERIOR that gets a man’s attention (smile, look, personality, non-bitchy attitude, confidence and overall attractiveness) and our INTERIOR (our love for God, family, friends, being honest, supportive, respectful, emotionally stable, goal-oriented) that keeps a man coming back for more.

AMEN! Both points are dead on. As men, we don’t classify potential life-long partners with derogatory, female degrading terms. We also don’t put a lot of stock, if any, into our mate’s credentials and educational achievements. Most guys, to be frank, could really care less. I understand this is very difficult for some women to fathom. But it’s definitely true. As a matter of fact, a woman’s credentials could even hurt her on some occasions. Why? Men are very visual. We’re not scenic, but visual. In other words, physical beauty, a gorgeous smile, a mild temper and “Bonnie & Clyde” loyalty are qualities most important to any good man. Remember, I said “good man.” Women, on the other hand, are generally guided by such intangible forces as fate and serendipity. See the difference?

In the heat of battle, it’s certainly not uncommon to hear women spew out their lofty goals and accomplishments with hopes of belittling their partner. Speaking from experience, through the years I’ve heard everything from “I got my own house, car, and money so I don’t need you” to “A man can’t do nothing for me; I pay my own bills.” Once the dialogue boiled to this point, I simply grabbed my car keys, started the ignition and headed south down I-635 to Hodges Towers (a.k.a. my crib). Seriously ladies, you must understand we’re not overly impressed by what you have. We’re enticed more so by your physical and emotional characteristics. Keep in mind; guys buy nice cars, apartments and furniture simply to satisfy the female appetite. Heck, if it were up to us, we’d reside inside a nice, climate-controlled cardboard box, furnished with a flat screen TV for sports, just to sever monthly household expenses.

Besides, most men want to believe they’re the ‘Head of Household’ if and when marriage takes place. A woman’s verbal resume is usually viewed as being selfish, condescending and counterproductive to this cause. Now, here’s what I find interesting. Word on the street is white, asian and latina women are more submissive than their black counterparts. I say “Hogwash!” Hell, recent deaths of black millionaires Steve McNair and Chris Henry were both at the hands of female lovers who are not black. You can also throw the alleged physical assault by Tiger Woods’ wife into this category. Black women have gotten a bad rap for years. Now would be a good time to turn the tide.