New Love in the New Year!
Dana Carroll, Sex & Relationships
2010 PROMISES TO DELIVER A FRESH START AND NEW LOVE, by Dana Carroll
KANSAS CITY – Along with the New Year comes a new start, new love and potentially a new relationship. The best thing about ending a year and starting another is the since of hopefulness and the feeling of completing one chapter and starting another. 2010 is the start of not only a year but a decade. What are you going to do different to get the relationship you want? The first step to getting what you want is deciding what you’ve been doing wrong. For some this is the hardest thing to do because it involves taking a look in the mirror. If you are repeatedly finding yourself in the same situations can you really blame everyone else? There must be something you are doing to negate change.
The second step is to decide what you don’t want. What are the common behaviors in your past relationships that you are unwilling to deal with in your future? Tell yourself that you do have the power to ask for what you want and refuse to settle for anything less than you deserve. The fear of being alone often times is the main reason a person will settle into a relationship and try to stick it out. In 2010 face that fear head on and know you are worth the wait. Do not try to make someone that is not giving you what you want into something they are not and probably never will be. The only person you can change is yourself. The only person’s behaviors you can control is your own.
The Year 2010 promises to deliver new brand love and fresh romance
Remember the person you are trying to have a relationship with is not your child. You cannot force them to do things your way. So why waste your time with someone that does not want the same things you want? While planning for the start of this new decade, plan on falling in love. If you are currently in a relationship, plan to put that love first. Resolutions are meant to improve upon the status quo so resolve to be more spontaneous, more daring, and more direct in this New Year.
If you put your energy into a new hobby, you will start to feel better about yourself which will result in higher selfesteem that will allow you to make the best decisions for yourself in your relationships. If you know you are worth more than what your significant other is giving you, you will have the strength to move on. Some great hobbies that will not only benefit yourself but will benefit others include, running a marathon, volunteering or going back to school.
Dana Carroll, the Kansas City Sex and Relationships Examiner, is the “Real Love” columnist for Mass Appeal News. She is also an actress and model. View this article, and others, on the Examiner by clicking here. Dana welcomes your comments at dcarroll@massappealnews.com. For a peek at her movie clips, click here.
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January 23rd, 2010 at 3:49 am
baby d where you been all my life??? are you a new writer??? i aint never seen u before but i ran across your column and i must say you are absolutely stunning. me and you can make it baby. i would give up all my girlz for u
January 24th, 2010 at 9:50 am
Dana this is a wonderful article! I just came out a bad relationship and I made a promise that 2010 would be a much better year for me. I am just going to take my time and let good things happen naturally. I am so glad to see 2009 in the rear view mirror. Nice article!
January 28th, 2010 at 5:31 pm
im lookin 4 a new love too and Dana you are it. LOL
January 29th, 2010 at 12:23 pm
Good article! But I think all men are dogs. I am staying single forever or until I meet somebody rich.
February 2nd, 2010 at 11:41 pm
damn SWF what man pissed u off? we aint all dogs. yall women always want to categorize a brotha. dont let one bad experience ruin yo perception of all men. i feel sorry fo yo next boyfriend. that man iz gonna go thru hell.