Love Chronicles: Love me back
Dana Carroll, Sex & Relationships
BEING IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE WHO DOES NOT LOVE BACK, by Dana Carroll
KANSAS CITY – You’re in love with someone that doesn’t love you. What do you do? The sex is great. He makes you laugh constantly and you have a wonderful time with him. But something is missing. You are ready to tell him you love him but you know he doesn’t feel that way about you. Do you tell him and risk being rejected? Do you continue to see him knowing you all are not on the same page? It is not an ideal situation to be in. But you have options. It all boils down to what you can handle. If you know without a doubt he does not love you, then depending on how strong your feelings are for him, you might need to cut your losses and move on.
If you stay in a situation with someone that does not return your feelings, it is a good chance you are going to get hurt. If you think this is a situation you are in there are some steps you can take.
1. COMMUNICATE: You have to communicate your desires. Give your partner the chance to tell you if they are going to be able to return your feelings one day or if they have no interest in falling in love with you. It will be easier to let them go if you know they are not willing to give you what you need out of the relationship.
2. BE WILLING TO SAY GOODBYE: Relationships should always be beneficial to all parties involved. You should never allow yourself to be in a situation where you are fulfilling all of someone else’s needs and allowing your needs to be looked over and forgotten. Put yourself first, you can almost guarantee the person you are dating is putting his/her feelings and desires before yours.
3. KEEP DATING: Never allow one bad situation to keep you from meeting the person you are meant to be with. If you are not putting yourself in a position to meet Mr. or Ms. Right how can you expect them to find you? Besides dating really can be fun. The main goal after letting go of someone you care for should be to continue to enjoy life.
Luckily in Kansas City there are many people that are looking for a serious relationship. There is no reason to settle for less than what you want in a city like this. The thing about relationships is, sometimes they end. But when there’s an ending there is a beginning. Even Jay Z says “it’s on to the next one.”
Dana Carroll, the Kansas City Sex and Relationships Examiner, is the “Real Love” columnist for Mass Appeal News. She is also an actress and model. View this article, and others, on the Examiner by clicking here. Dana welcomes your comments at dcarroll@massappealnews.com. For a peek at her movie clips, click here.
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May 6th, 2010 at 11:48 pm
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May 7th, 2010 at 12:47 am
only a dumb ass will stay in a relationship thats unequal
May 7th, 2010 at 1:25 pm
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May 8th, 2010 at 9:23 pm
dana i promise if you luv me i will luv you back. real men know what they want in a woman. and baby i want you.
May 10th, 2010 at 6:57 am
I enjoy your article. I know what its like to love somebody that dont love you back. I used to bend over backwards for my ex and he never apprecaited anything. I was the only one giving in the relationship and he was busy taking.
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May 12th, 2010 at 3:39 pm
Masking Your Pain:
This is the biggest problem in a rebound relationship. Usually someone ends up being used and hurt as a result. If you are in a relationship to distract yourself from the pain of a broken heart then you are using another person. More than likely when that person has served their purpose you will move on, leaving them to pick up … See Morethe pieces. Be honest with your new relationship partner about your intentions.
Being Used by The Rebounder:
If you find yourself in a relationship with someone who has recently broken off a long term relationship, be cautious. Don’t allow your new relationship partner to set the pace. If you do, you will find yourself in the middle of a whirlwind. You don’t want to be left in the dust once he / she decides to move on.
If you are single, out there looking for love and longing for a committed relationship you probably won’t find what you desire from someone on the rebound. If you do become involved with such a person be sure to let the relationship develop slowly and to take care of yourself emotionally.
May 13th, 2010 at 7:11 am
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