Love Chronicles: Don’t waste time
Dana Carroll, Sex & Relationships
CHASING SOMEBODY THAT DON’T WANT YOU IS A WASTE OF TIME, by Dana Carroll
KANSAS CITY – This may seem like common sense, but a lot of hopeful daters will ignore this one key sign. This one thing could prevent so much heart break and disappointment if and only if people would pay attention to it. Proceed at your own risk. Seriously, if you want to waste your time pursuing someone that doesn’t want to be pursued, really who do you have to blame? If the person you are seeing and hoping to have a relationship with tells you they are not interested in anything serious, believe them.
This next part is going to sting a little. Because the truth is what they are saying when they say this is, “I’m not looking for anything serious with YOU.” The way you convince yourself to hold on to this person and hold out for them getting ready for something serious, is you tell yourself that when they are ready they are going to come to you. No they are not. They never would have said they weren’t ready for a relationship, if they were considering a relationship with you.
Now of course there are exceptions to this rule. There will always be exceptions, however, you need to stop thinking of yourself as the exception. Let that person go. Truly give them up as a potential romantic partner. The reward for this is twofold. If they come back to you, then you will know that it is truly what they want and not what you’ve forced upon them. Secondly if they don’t come back to you and they move on to someone else which they often do, you will not have wasted anymore time hoping for them to choose you. It’s time to be blatantly honest with ourselves and stop wasting time.
Chasing the wrong person is a waste of time
I think there comes a time in everyone’s life that we question, who we are, what we’ve done, and where we’re going. But it is at this cross roads that we have to start making the best decisions to ensure our own happiness. The awesome thing about Kansas City is that it has a plethora of educational options. Anything you have an interest in just about can be pursued in Kansas City. If you are thinking about becoming a writer, The Writer’s Place should be your first stop. You will meet amazing people that share your thirst for the arts and creating. They have readings and workshops you can attend.
Dana Carroll, the Kansas City Sex and Relationships Examiner, is the “Real Love” columnist for Mass Appeal News. She is also an actress and model. View this article, and others, on the Examiner by clicking here. Dana welcomes your comments at dcarroll@massappealnews.com. For a peek at her movie clips, click here.
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May 20th, 2010 at 1:08 pm
this article makes sense…why do people chase people dat dont want em? know what im sayin? thats stupid. aint nobody all dat. all you do iz give people da big head. i aint sweatin nobody
May 20th, 2010 at 2:06 pm
Ruthless Lover you are so funny.
May 20th, 2010 at 3:22 pm
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May 20th, 2010 at 7:49 pm
Good article! Just want to add that a woman should never chase a man. if a man really wants you he will come after you. I hate to see women chasing after men.
May 21st, 2010 at 1:02 pm
to white chic: i just keeps it real – aint no frontin