Mo’Nique is under fire for telling African American women how to dress in public

Mo’Nique put sistas on blast/YouTube

Mo’Nique slams Nubian women. 

Blog King, Mass Appeal

ATLANTA — Blacklisted comic Mo’Nique is under fire again after she accused slothful black women of having no pride in their physical appearance. The 53-year-old Oscar winner blew a gasket the other day when she descried hordes of Nubian popsies donning bonnets and headscarves in public. “As we begin to walk through the airport, I saw so many, actually too many to count… but I saw so many of our young sisters in head bonnets, scarves, slippers, pajamas, blankets wrapped around them — and this is how they are showing up to the airport,” Mo’Nique ranted via Instagram Live. “When did we step away from, ‘Let me make sure I’m presentable when I leave my home. Let me make sure I’m representing the family I created. So that if I’m out on the street, I look like I have pride in myself?'”

Mo’Nique also implored black chicks to comb their tresses.

Fans were understandably pissed. Many lambasted Mo’Nique for excoriating black women on what they can and can’t wear while others were quick to mention outward appearance doesn’t necessarily reflect a person’s level of pride. Not to mention Mo’Nique made the comments while looking homely herself.

Talk about the pot calling the kettle black.

“You’re literally in robe, no bra, hair not done talking to the PUBLIC about presentation?” one fan wrote.

“Please tell me this is a joke and you’re trying to prove a point.”

It should be noted bonnets and headscarves are traditionally worn by African American hotties to safeguard their natural hair, especially during bedtime. So it’s a cultural thing. Mo’Nique is basically exhorting sistas to conform to white societal standards. Does that make her a sellout?

Watch Mo’Nique’s public service announcement.

Share your thoughts.

92 comments

  1. It’s a difference between black ppl & NIGGAZ get it straight 4 once like damn

  2. Um no, us black people are too far behind to be trying to establish more dumb sh*t. Perception is reality period. A bonnet with pajamas in public says “I’ve given up”.

  3. Monique kept it 100. I make sure I’m dressed to impress no matter what. Ain’t gonna let no Karen upstage me.

  4. I’m most comfortable naked. So you think it’s okay for me to walk around naked. OG needs to grow up. If I see you in the street in a bonnet, slippers, pajamas, you trifling and rachet.

  5. As a black women ive never wore a bonnet outside the house. U can wear a baseball cap or a scarf. I just don’t feel comfortable wearing house clothes outside

  6. anthony thompson

    Get yo mind right,not ya hair .my people 2 judgemental.thats like saying overweight people should b thin b4 they go outside. my people need to start loving the way a HUE-man is supposed to look, not some theory.u think all those ghosts swinging from trees care about yo NATURAL.look at who i am as a person and i guarantee u wont notice my NAPPY/NAPE, real,all inclusive hair.u just a celebrity so u don’t know what substance is anyway miss parker . …. ….

  7. The crazy thing is that a lot of these comments are anti black and very dehumanizing against black women

  8. Monique aged a lot after that Netflix complaint 😬🤔😳😱🚬

  9. Auntie why are you on social media without a bra on addressing this?

  10. Fedly Lherisson

    If it was up to me, I would mind my. Own business . There too many things going on out there especially Covid. People has the right to wear what they want. It’s a. Free country. And also you don’t want to be a situation when you are being jump

  11. Ok but not all of us want to mess up our hair. Especially at the airport. Famous people should stay out of other’s business. Everyone is different. Wearing bonnets doesn’t mean you have no respect for yourself. Like some people take them off whenever they get to their location. She’s annoying💯

  12. Carebear 67street

    She need to stop! When she was 200lbs bigger, she didn’t like skinny bitches, but now she’s losing weight, she wants to tell people what they should or should not wear! Mo, you can’t have it both ways…
    Don’t go knocking people about how they look,!

    You didn’t like it when it was done to you!!!

    She may be slimming down, but her head is still big…. Literally 🙄
    Now, I live in the hood and see that stuff she mentioned, on the daily! No, I don’t like it, but, as long as I’m not the one showing up in a bonnet & pjs, then I’m not worried about it! I mind my own business… Each of us are not on the same economic level, so people buy and wear what they can afford, and the average are struggling and have been for a while, so unless she’s willing to go to the hood and set up shop and give Free beauty services, then she need to shut up and mind her biz….

    I like Mo, but I don’t always agree with her!
    She don’t set the standard for beauty, style, class, or mannerism. Except for her own self….
    Something we all must do for our own selves 🧐

  13. With all do respect, there are some women that don’t give a damn about they’re appearance and women that do, but never judge anyone. Someone wearing a bonnet and slippers might be sick the day you see her, she still got to run to the pharmacy, grocery store, etc. Because she has no one at home that can help her do those things, Tap her and ask how she is doing before judging about why she’s wearing a bonnet and slippers.

  14. it’s a damn shame that ANYONE has to tell you NOT to do this. i would think the mirror would tell you. your pride would tell you. your mama (should have) told you. now you’re grown and lack the discernment for self-correction, and another black woman has to tell you. it’s a sad commentary on some black women. thank you monique.

  15. I just feel like self pride is being way too heavily based on appearance in her argument. It’s not like going out with a head covering is automatically equivalent to uncleanliness. And why does it matter if someone is going to the airport or Walmart anyway? If I’m going to the store to grab some things I need, how my hair is tied back is for me, not for you. I know many people who ALWAYS look so well put together, but they are still struggling with deep rooted insecurities, depression, unhealed trauma, etc. Self care is not just “looking” like you care about yourself to a complete stranger (or anyone for that matter) who doesn’t know you or where you’ve been or what you’ve been through. You can look good and “presentable” to someone else’s eyes all you want, but that doesn’t mean you are living a healthful life.

  16. Thank Gawd! Finally a black woman spoke on this!!!! Thank u Monique

  17. BLack2ThaBeginning

    I wish more celebrities would teach black folk how to start investing in stocks and trading so we can keep our black asses outta these chinese hair stores. Therefore we could open our own hair shops. I just started buying stocks during the pandemic. I’ve visoted Ghana right b4 the pandemic. That’s another thing celebrities need to encourage plan your exit outta usa and visit Africa and you will see nobody gives 2 flying fawks about what’s on your head. Everyone is beautiful rather bonnets on or not. Ijs… we need to stay focus on what’s more important. Every black person I meet I ask it they invest in stocks because I wish someone had introduced me much earlier to stocks. My portfolio is poppin right now. Love you Monique keep being black and beautiful as you are. ❤

  18. monique oglesby

    All I have to say is… I thought back to the Queens of Comedy. Y’all remember when she commented on Sommore. Being all dressed up early in the morning. On Queens of Comedy. But Now it’s not ok. Just a question? Why the switch up?

  19. I’m Latino and I told my girlfriend, why you going to supermarket wearing sweatpants? She gave me that look.

  20. It’s so sad that someone has to ask us to have respect in ourselves and it’s even worse when that person get crucified for even trying to help

  21. Where was your pride, when you took a $50,000 check to do such a disturbing movie like Precious. Or where is your Pride by letting your HUSBAND sleep with whoever with your permission. 🤦🏿‍♂️ Help yourself first

  22. I don’t wear pajamas or bonnets in public but I also don’t wear robes in public. How is Monique wearing a robe while she criticizing others for wearing bonnets? I think the joke is on her…..but I stll love ya Mo’

  23. Thank God a sista is finally saying something!!! And this bonnet sh*t is just the tip of the iceberg!!! Because 10/10 you BEHAVE the way you dress!!!😒

  24. Black women have gotten soooooo comfortable with being “Hood”, twerking, a sleeve of tattoos, bonnets, Crocs, Slides, tights, etc…

  25. I’m a white woman and I have the same thing to say to many white women young and old. Let’s all clean up before we go out in public – and even if you are staying home. Have some gumption! And let me add – stand up to push your shopping cart instead of laying on it pushing it with your elbows like you’re on your last leg. If you’re that tired stay home and take a nap.

  26. Monique is married to a Black man who sleeps with other MEN and women. The Monique’s of this world can have Black men. BW are waking up.

  27. 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯about time someone that has a platform says some real shit….tired of that bs

  28. Throwback Wilson

    I remember when I was 18 yrs old and I worked at Burlington coat factory. I was always dressed nice, had my hair cut, tucked my shirt in, made sure my clothes were iron to the crisp, made sure I smelled awesome. Etc etc.

    Many of the employees back then, that were my race and non blacks always came in like they just woke up out of bed.

    I remember we had a store meeting one day, and the manager pointed directly at me when he said we had to represent. And dressing high and tight says a lot about customer service.

    He point at me and said, “ this a prime example of what we need to present to our customers.”

    So after the meeting, we all clocked in and associates were so pissed at me like I did something wrong! But I didn’t pay them no mind because, I knew how I was, was the way to go.

    I’m not gonna downgrade for nobody!

    This how I was raised, my dad, grandmother, my stepmother taught me how to be clean and look professional at all times.

  29. What if white men says it was unattractive? Would sistas stop? I mean yall want to swirl and shyt

  30. Bonnets in public is tacky as shit!!! Get over it. Not everything is a damn attack on black women

  31. Goddess Yoli Cosmetique

    What amazes me: we DO NOT see WHITE celebrities or white people putting down their WHITE WOMEN/white people like how BLACK celebrities (or Black people) putting down their Black people. I see WHITE people too wear BONNETTS, PAJAMAS, & SLIPPERS IN STORES. But MO’NIQUE some how ONLY SAW BLACK PEOPLE/WOMEN wearing it RIGHT??? Now we all see WHY Mo’nique is BLACK-LISTED/BALLED from Hollywood & WHY Oprah does NOT want to deal with her. Mo’nique does not know how to play the GAME.

  32. Soul Expression

    You know what bothers me, why do we care what people wear outside? Who gives a fuck? You can’t judge someone based off of what they wear, making material things matter and how we dress etc. Is rediculous to me. We are worried about the wrong things. People should dress however they fucking want and the world just need to change the way they look at things. As long as people are not physically hurting people with how they dress what do we care? Presentation? Why do we even care about presentation when it comes to how people dress? Lol oh because we are ready to judge a person by what they wear right? That’s shallow

  33. She said that so beautifully! But I think people will always have something to say no matter what you look like… black women and women of color who wear hijabs and look GORGEOUS and “presentable” in them, have been scrutinised by society, black women who wear their natural hair beautifully and unapologetically have been scrutinised by society, black women who wear tight clothing and look sexy have been scrutinised by society, black women in baggy clothing looking good have been scrutinised by society, black women who wear wigs/weaves have been scrutinised by society…. Why? Because someone will always have something to say…

    I do however agree with Monique because what she’s saying is exactly what my mom taught me! But I’m just saying that no one can please everybody 🤷🏽‍♀️

  34. pride comes before every fall. you don’t wear pride, you simply show it and it’s usually not for others. pride is an ugly trait that breeds destruction. I don’t think she could say this without judgment because it’s all judgment when you’re telling anyone how they need to look to appease you. That’s also pride. Who are these women hurting by showing up for self and how they feel no matter how they feel? They don’t represent anyone but themselves. This is the problem with others thinking they can speak for entire communities. It’s not your place. Maybe she is speaking to those who call her auntie. That’s not what I call Monique. She is gonna learn to only speak for her and hers, because the black community is not returning the love she thinks she is owed. She is too attached to the culture. Let some of it go, Monique. It’s ok to let go.

  35. About 8 years ago, I made a post on FB on the same topic. As an educator, I’ve seen parents’ and guardians’ slippers, pajamas, low-pants, bonnets and clothes wreaking of cigarettes and/or marijuana casually stroll into the front office or the cafeteria to join their kids for lunch. It’s disgraceful! Anyway, I received only one like for that post and that was from my wife.

  36. SO MONIQUE HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT BLACK MEN WITH DURAGS ON OUTSIDE I MEAN DONT BLACK WOMEN GET BASHED ENOUGH ABOUT EVERYTHING THEY TO AND NOW YOU MAKING THIS DUMB ASS VIDEO ABOUT A HAIR ACCESSORY YOU DIDNT MENTION ALL THE OTHER RACE WHO COPY OUR CULTURE AND WEAR BONNETS AND SAY THEY HAVE NO PRIDE BUT I GEUSS YOU JUST WANNA SHAME AND HURT YOUR OWN SISTERS HUH 🤔 MONIQUE NAW YOU JUST TRYING TO BE RELEVANT YOU SHOULD’VEMADE A VIDEO ABOUT POLICE BRUTALITY TOWARDS BLACK WOMEN AND MEN THATS WHAT IS HURTING OUR PRIDE ALL THESE KILLINGS AND BLACK WOMEN AND TEENS COMING UP MISSING WE STILL OUT HERE PROTESTING IN 2021 MONIQUE AND ALL YOU SEE IN THE BLACK COMMUNITY MONIQUE IS A HAIR ACCESSORY REALLY THEY MAKING BLACK HIGH SCHOOL STUDENTS CUT HAIR OUT THEIR HEADS TO PARTICIPATE IN SPORTS BUT THE VIDEO YOU MADE TURNING FOLKS ATTENTION OFF WHATS IMPORTANT WE HAVE MORE IMPORTANT SHIT TO BE WORRIED ABOUT THAN A DAMN HAIR ACCESSORY BLACK PEOPLE ARE QUEEN AND KINGS REGARDLESS OF WHAT THEY DO OR WHAT THEY WEAR WE ARE BORN ROYAL AINT NO TRAINING MONIQUE GOT YALL MIND FUCKED UP BLACK WOMEN YALL ARE BEAUTIFUL NO MATTER WHAT AND I APOLOGIZE TO THE SISTERS WHO HAVE TO WEAR THEM FOR MEDICAL REASONS RESPECT ✊🏾

  37. The black women I know in my life would never be caught dead looking like those women in an airport. They’re raised to be on their Sunday’s best. They dress to the nines.

  38. Are You Serious

    Monique has been black balled by Hollywood. What better way to reposition herself and revive her career than to position herself as a mentor or guide for Black women?

    Monique built an entire career telling crude and vulgar jokes. She once said she would never shave her legs. Then just last year she told Tyler and Oprah to suck her (you know what). Then Tyler tried to make amends, but Monique betrayed him by recording the conversation and releasing it to the public. Now she wants to give Black women advice on how to be a lady? Be on the look out for her next TV show. I’ll pass.

  39. I have to agree with her, and the way she expressed her opinion was classy and not at all judgemental. I also wonder how some women, regardless of race, can step outside of their homes looking the way some do. As Mo’Nique stated, it’s not about being in full makeup and dressed to impress, it’s about representing yourself respectfully. This also applies to men wearing do-rags outside of the house. When one of my sons thought it would be okay to leave the house with me while he was wearing a do-rag, I asked him how he’d feel if I left the house with him with curlers in my hair? He immediately took his do-rag off.

  40. Beautiful message and because this is a very delicate subject….Why is Monique wearing a bathrobe and perhaps no bra on social media? No makeup? To deliver this thought provoking message..The Queen must look like a Queen at all times! Thank you!

  41. I half agree and half don’t agree,
    Cause if I’m in a rush to a shop just around the corner I will be wearing a bonnet 45% of the time as I do not have the time to be trying to detangle and style my curls.

  42. Maria Free Voice

    What’s ghetto and ratchet about a bonnet?

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